Tuesday, March 20, 2007

This Stage of Life

With the very sad news that came yesterday about Daniel, I have found it hard to write today. Everything seems trivial, and unimportant. I have refocused this post three times already. Writing, and deleting, writing and deleting. Writing and deleting.

Helpless is how I feel when someone I know and love is hurting. What can I do? I just want to take away their pain. But I can't. The only thing I can do, that may truly help, is pray. Pray hard and earnestly. That is what I will do. Our prayers are with their family.


I am sure that Catherine would appreciate our prayers. I don't think she expects us to put our lives on hold, although, I feel like I should do that. It feels wrong to laugh when someone is crying, it feels wrong to be happy when someone is scared. It feels wrong that my 8 year old is healthy when her 8 year old is very sick. It just feels wrong.


While surfing blogs a couple of weeks ago, I found a challenge, to post about why you love this stage of life that you are in. Today feels like a good day to post about this.


I really am enjoying this stage of life. My children are 11, 10, 8, and 5. There are no diapers to change, everyone is potty trained, I can understand every word they say to me, they can explain why they are frustrated, they can go play outside without me, they can get themselves a drink of water. The list could go on and on.


It all comes down to this. They are independent. They need me, but not every minute of every day. It feels good to know that I am raising children who are independent. They are learning to care for themselves. This stage of life is not without trials, the struggles are just different. Along with independence, is decision making. Free Agency. I have to let them make their own choices. Although it may be hard to see my children stumble, I try to remember that this is how they learn and grow.


As my children continue to get older and move away from home, I will experience different stages of life. I am sure each stage will be exciting and will present it's own trials. But for now, I will enjoy this stage of growing independence.


Why do you love this stage of life you are in?